Practical, compassionate guidance for parents navigating bullying.
A parent's guide for when
bullying happens
When Bullying Happens,
Know What to Do Next
A practical, compassionate guide for parents whose child is being hurt, causing harm, or witnessing bullying.
Get clear steps for the first 24 hours, understanding what’s happening, working with the school, and supporting your child—without minimizing harm or reducing them to a label.
Instant digital download • Core guide + 5-Minute Confidence Reset
01
Understand
What Happened
02
Respond in the
First 24 Hours
03
Work With
the School
04
Support What
Comes Next
What you do next can help your child feel supported… .
A CLEARER WAY FORWARD
When Bullying Happens, Knowing What to Do Matters
When your child is being hurt, causing harm, or witnessing bullying, it can be hard to know what to say or do first.
You don’t have to solve everything at once. Start by understanding what happened, helping your child feel heard, and identifying the next safe, practical step.
The Bullying Toolkit gives you conversation prompts, school communication guidance, and follow-up tools to help you respond with care and clarity.
How to Guide,
and Why It Matters
A look inside...
Practical guidance for the conversations and decisions ahead.
When bullying may be happening, it helps to have a clear place to start. This toolkit walks you through what to consider, what you might say,
and possible next steps.
How to recognize when behavior may meet the definition of bullying
A guide to the first 24 hours
Conversation prompts and scripts
Support for when your child is targeted, witnesses bullying, or has caused harm
Guidance for working with the school
The 5-Minute Confidence Reset
When You’re Not Sure What to Do Next…
Is This You?
Your child tells you something happened, and you want to listen and respond without rushing to dismiss it or fix everything at once.
You’re trying to understand what’s going on—whether it may be bullying, what details matter, and what to do first.
You want to support your child and work with the school, whether your child is being targeted, witnessing bullying, or has caused harm.
What helps isn’t a quick comeback or a one-size-fits-all answer.
It’s a clear way to understand what’s happening
and consider your next step.
INTRODUCING
The Bullying Toolkit
Clear guidance for the moments that matter.
The What to Do When Bullying Happens guide + the 5-Minute Confidence Reset
Practical steps, conversation scripts, school guidance, and support for what comes next.
WHAT’S INSIDE
A Practical Guide for the Moments Bullying Happens
Open a section to see what’s included in the toolkit.
Learn how to use the guide, and find additional resources for support.
Review the key features that can help distinguish bullying from other hurtful behavior or conflict.
Find practical first steps and words to use after you learn that something may have happened.
Consider how to listen, offer support, and decide what information or help may be needed.
Take the harm seriously while supporting your child in understanding what happened and what needs to change.
Explore ways to talk with your child about what they saw and how they might respond.
Prepare for communication with school staff and think through possible next steps.
Support follow-up and recovery, and use the Reset as a brief confidence-building exercise.
A CLEARER WAY TO RESPOND
Listen. Understand. Choose a Next Step.
Every situation is different. Start by listening, gather the information you need, and decide what may help next.
Listen
Help your child feel heard. Stay curious, ask open questions, and give them time to tell you what happened.
Understand
Look at what happened and whether there may be a pattern. The guide can help you consider whether the behavior may meet the definition of bullying.
Choose
Consider what support your child needs and whether to involve the school. The toolkit offers prompts and practical guidance for what to do next.
Support for what comes next...
The First Conversation Is
Only the Beginning.
After you learn about bullying, your child may need support beyond that first conversation.
If your child was targeted, they may need reassurance and continued support. If your child caused harm, they need clear expectations and help taking responsibility. If they witnessed bullying, they may need space to talk through what they saw.
The toolkit offers guidance for these situations, along with the 5-Minute Confidence Reset.
You don’t have to figure out every next step at once. The guide can help you decide where to begin.
A Clearer next Step—When You Need It...
Get the Bullying Toolkit
A practical guide to understanding what may be happening,
responding with care, and deciding what to do next.
Bullying response guide
First 24-hour action steps
Support for your child
Conversation scripts
School communication guidance
5-Minute Confidence Reset
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MORE DETAILS
Your Questions Answered
Two digital PDFs: What to Do When Bullying Happens and The 5-Minute Confidence Reset.
Yes. It includes guidance for when your child is targeted, has harmed someone, or witnesses bullying.
No. It’s a practical resource for parents, not an assessment or diagnosis.
No. Start with the section that fits your situation, then return to the other sections as needed.
Hello!
I'm Kari Carr.
I’m an award-winning children’s author, empathy educator, and creator of the Effortless Empathy Method. I also hold credentials in Positive Parenting and Neuroscience Coaching.
I created What to Do When Bullying Happens to help parents think through a difficult situation with care and clarity—whether their child is being targeted, has caused harm, or witnessed bullying.
The guide offers practical steps for responding, communicating with the school, and considering what comes next. It also includes The 5-Minute Confidence Reset.
When Bullying Happens…
Find a Clearer Next Step.
Get practical guidance for responding when your child is targeted, has caused harm, or has witnessed bullying.
Includes What to Do When Bullying Happens and The 5-Minute Confidence Reset.
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